My partner can’t keep an erection and it’s ruining our sex life

DEAR DEIDRE:  TRY as I might to make sex exciting, my partner still can’t keep an erection. He says he didn’t have a problem before but he has confessed to me that he regularly paid for sex when he worked away during his marriage.

I’m 43, he is 46 and we’ve been together six months. Our relationship is almost perfect, except for the lack of sex and passion. I’m disgusted that he used prostitutes regularly.

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He said his wife broke his heart when she ended their marriage but she never knew he used prostitutes so how can he claim she broke his heart when he was paying for sex? To me that’s not love.

I wouldn’t be so worried if our sex life was good, but my head’s spinning.

DEIDRE SAYS:  He may have seen sex with a prostitute as just business but it involves tricky ques-tions about exploiting vulnerable women and paying to feel in control.

Maybe his erection fails when he feels more exposed and vulnerable.

You two should talk it over and he needs a health check to rule out a medical cause of his erection issues.

My e-leaflet Solving Erection Problems can help.

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